As if
Manifesting, magnetism, and cultivating a wardrobe that is enough.
All photos are from Chellie’s Instagram account.
I love clothes. Always have. But somewhere along the way, I noticed something: most of us dress for who we were, not who we’re becoming. We have outfits for our roles — work, workout, special occasion — but nothing for the woman in between versions of herself, standing in front of her closet at 7 am, wondering why nothing feels right. That woman, according to LA stylist Chellie Carlson, doesn’t have a style problem.
She has an as if problem.
I met Chellie on Zoom; her signature chunky gold necklace, oversized glasses, and a greenery backdrop were, frankly, perfect. Before she said a word, she was already making an argument: that style isn’t staged. It’s intentional, personal, and it tells a story.
Then she said as if, and I stopped taking notes. (Because I do not trust Zoom recordings.)
Not the Clueless version of as if!
Something straight out of Goddard and Dyer. The as if of a woman who dresses not for who she is right now, but for who she is becoming. The practice of deciding, before the world has caught up, that you are already her.
Chellie built her career on this idea, but let’s back up to where it started, on a farm in Missouri, and work our way forward. (You can listen to the unedited version below. Keep reading for the polished version.)
From Missouri to West Hollywood
Chellie grew up with fashion in her blood, studied it at Central Missouri State, and then spent twenty years at a lingerie company in Chicago doing something that sounds simple but wasn’t: meeting women every day who struggled with their bodies.
“There’s so much shame around the breasts,” she told me. “My larger women wanted to look smaller, my smaller women wanted to look larger.” She would help them find the right bra and watch something shift in real time. Posture. Breath. The way a woman takes up space. Then they’d say: Chellie, what you just did for my bras, I need you to do for my whole wardrobe.
She listened. She built a website, made business cards, and started side hustling. Within a year and a half, she was making more from closet edits than she did in her full-time job. She founded her company two weeks before COVID hit, with very little savings and no guarantees.
“I call this my rock bottom,” she said.
Where some of us might sit eating a pint of ice cream out of the container, Chellie invested in a coach. She invested in herself. Three thousand dollars she didn’t really have, for a coach who helped her build a signature service framework she still uses today.
Investing in herself and her business was the best way to level up.
She went on to invest in masterminds and get into rooms with women who were ahead of her, which opened the door to a new consciousness.
“As women, we’ve been conditioned from childhood to invest in our children, our husbands, our family,” she told me. “We are the last ones to put on the oxygen mask.”
After COVID, women who had spent years in sweats emerged from lockdown and walked back into their closets only to discover that the person who wore these clothes, she didn’t “live” here anymore. These women had upgraded their lives, and it was time for their style to follow suit. The adage, "I have nothing to wear,” was code for “Who am I?” Chellie was the answer.
And in August 2023, she packed up her belongings and moved to West Hollywood.
“From the moment I landed here, it’s been just a dream. This is my gift - I’m meant to serve women.”
I believe her. When Chellie walks into your closet, she isn’t just a stylist. She’s a woman who knows exactly what it feels like to stand at the edge of who you’ve been and decide to become someone else. She’s been there. She invested her way out. And now she brings that same energy into every client — the unwavering belief that you are worth the investment. In the clothes. In the coaching. In the version of yourself that’s already waiting.
How would you define style?
Chellie: Style is the outward expression of your soul. It’s who you are to the world so that the world can see. It’s the first thing people see, and it is a manifestation tool. Bad style? When it’s not in alignment with who you are. (I mean, don’t you just LOVE that answer?)
Every garment you put on has energy. It either raises or lowers your vibration.
So many women are stuck in hiding their bodies — and hiding is low vibration. When you’re hiding, you’re dimming your light. You’re playing small.
We’ve been conditioned to believe the smaller we are, the higher our value. The less space we take up, the more acceptable we become. I spent all my skinny years feeling fat. The biggest lie. It’s my mission to help women break free from that.
When you find what’s authentic to you, that’s when the magnetism happens. That’s your authentic style code.
How do you find someone’s authenticity?
Chellie: It begins in the closet. When I take on clients, we work season after season, year after year. The first transformation is the biggest, but I can only take them so far at the beginning, to where I feel their nervous system and body can handle that level of change.
Everything I need to know is in the closet.
We spend 4 to 5 hours editing and reviewing everything.
I’m seeing information. I’m seeing how they valued themselves, what they thought their self-worth was. I see the hiding.
I take all of that information, and I hold the vision of who they’re becoming.
I dress them for three to five years out — where are they going? How are they showing up? How does she feel, three to five years from now?
And here’s what happens: you get there ten times faster… because you feel like her now. The wardrobe is signaling it.
This is where my SLP brain lit up. I work with women on narrative identity, and what Chellie is doing is vision scripting you can wear. The part of the brain responsible for future self-projection can’t always tell the difference between imagining and experiencing. I help women edit the language of their inner narrative — the stories they've been telling themselves about who they are and what they're worth — so they can write the next chapter on their own terms. When you dress for the woman you’re becoming, you’re not pretending. You’re rehearsing. You’re telling your nervous system: I am already here.
We are on the same highway, Chellie and I. Just different lanes.
She dresses the woman not for a number or age but for energy and vitality. “Age is just a number,” she said. “It means absolutely nothing.”
Tell me about a favorite client transformation.
Chellie: My client Jen is probably my biggest transformation to date. She runs a law firm with ten lawyers under her, and she was going to work in a Taylor Swift t-shirt and Wrangler jeans — just blending right in, invisible by choice. Her identity before working with me was: I’m just this average woman. Nobody sees me. I blend right in. Even while running a ten-million-dollar law firm.
Now she looks and acts like a different woman. We created an entirely new identity. She gets ready in five minutes, she’s going to dinner, she’s saying yes to more things — because she wants to be seen.
This is where the as if becomes real. Chellie didn’t wait for Jen to feel like a powerful woman before dressing her like one. She dressed her like one first, and Jen’s brain followed.
She wants to be seen. That’s the whole thing, right there.
This life is not a layaway plan
“Investing in myself is what changed my life,” Chellie told me.
Her test is simple: does the piece get a hell yes? And what’s the cost per wear? The snakeskin boots she bought three years ago have been worn so many times that the cost per wear is practically nothing. The $30 top with the tags still on it cost everything.
It doesn’t have to be designer.
Chellie touts quality over quantity. Value over volume. The energy of the clothes and how you feel in them matters more than the label.
“Walking into a store thinking you can only buy something if it’s on sale is a scarcity mindset. You do not want that energy. The frequency of investing in yourself tells the most important person in the room that you are worthy of wearing beautiful clothes. And that person is you.”
And then she said this: “I want to challenge women into the next level of - what would my higher self invest in?”
What do you say to the woman standing in front of an overstuffed closet, overwhelmed?
Chellie: Get a rolling rack. Pull everything out by category — tanks, t-shirts, blouses, long sleeves, sweaters, all the way through. Edit every category ruthlessly. Ask yourself: Does it fit? If you love it, can it be tailored? Does it feel next level? Does it have energy? Can I wear it seven ways? If not, she’s gone.
The less you have, the clearer you get.
Only the current season belongs in your main closet. Everything else — resort wear, formal, out-of-season — moves out. When you walk in, and there’s too much stimulus, decision fatigue sets in before your day has even started.
And the sentimental pieces — the dress someone you loved once wore, the belt that carries a memory? Those go in the archive. They don’t disappear. They’re just honored somewhere safe, out of the daily decision and into memory, where they belong.
I love that word. Archive. It doesn’t say throw away or forget. It says: this is precious, this is protected. As someone who helps women edit the language of their inner narrative, I recognize this move. We keep old stories the way we keep clothes that no longer fit — just in case, maybe someday, what if.
But keeping what doesn’t fit isn’t hope. It’s just clutter. Let it go. Move the energy. Make room for what’s actually true about you now.
Build the style muscle
“The act of putting on an outfit signals to your brain and your body: I am here. I am ready. I will have more energy, more focus, more clarity because I feel beautiful in this outfit.”
Getting dressed is habit stacking. It’s neuroscience. It’s also just: put on the outfit and notice what happens to your posture, your energy, your willingness to show up. The woman in the Lululemons all day wonders why she feels fine. Just fine. The woman who takes five minutes to put on something that makes her feel incredible - she’s the one who says yes to the dinner, shows up on stories, walks into the room like she belongs there.
Style is a muscle. You build it one outfit at a time.
Magnetic dressing
When the outfit is truly yours, something else happens. Chellie calls it magnetic dressing.
“People are just drawn to your energy. Your shoulders are back. You’re calling in all the opportunities.” She gets dressed for her top client even on days she’s working from home alone. She dresses for the airport like she might meet someone who changes her life — because she has.
The magnetism doesn’t come from dressing for others. It comes from dressing for yourself. That’s when heads turn. That’s when the room notices.
This made me think about my first speaking engagement in Miami last April. I ordered dress after dress, trying to match the pressure (and designer labels) of the room, and nothing fit — not my body, not my energy. I ended up in a pink leopard mesh dress from Target, my grandmother’s belt, and shoes that walked the walk while I talked. It wasn’t designer. It was just me, and I felt like a million bucks.
That, Chellie would say, is exactly the point.
The one rule
Chellie doesn’t believe in fashion rules. (Rule breaker, she said it herself.) But she has one she never breaks:
Bring it in at the waist.
Every body. Every size. Every shape. A front tuck, a high-waist pant, a belt. Not complicated. Just know where to draw the line. Literally.
Rapid fire
If you could only wear one outfit forever, which would it be? Barrel jeans — loose and baggy — snakeskin boots, a crop top, an oversized blazer, my signature belt, and my signature necklace. Done. Every day.
One thing in your purse right now? Charlotte Tilbury lip gloss. I have them in every bag. I can apply it without a mirror. Non-negotiable.
Sneakers or heels? Sneakers. Every time.
Favorite book? Creating Money — Ladies, it’s so good. It’s like magnetic work. It’s basically about money being an energy manifestation. It’s brilliant. I highly recommend it. And I have to look at those notes all over it… so I buy these, and I gift them to my friends.
How do story and style connect for you? Every time you step out the door, you are telling your story. You are teaching others how to treat you. It doesn’t matter what you spent on the outfit — it matters how it makes you feel. Style gives you the foundation to go do what you’re actually here to do. Whether that’s being on stage speaking, running a law firm, or showing up for your family.
It starts with getting dressed like you mean it.
Find Chellie
Chellie offers one-on-one style transformation and her Style Society membership — $55 a month of style boards, accountability, masterclasses, and a community of women who are done playing small. She also has a free closet edit guide on her website. Just go get it.
Find her at chelliecarlson.com and on Instagram. Tell her Karen sent you.
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XO,
Karen